Primitive attacks on women, by Donu Kogbara
Senator Adams Oshiomhole recently took it upon himself to taunt Mrs Betsy Obaseki, the Edo State Governor’s highly accomplished wife, for being childless.
On the other side of the world, in the United States, JD Vance, Donald Trump’s motor mouth running mate, has also taken pot shots at women who have no children…women such as Kamala Harris, his principal’s stylish and smart lawyer opponent.
SHAME ON BOTH OF THE ABOVE FOR THEIR UNGENTLEMANLY AND SPITEFUL VERBAL ASSAULTS ON BLAMELESS MEMBERS OF THE FEMALE POPULATION…AND FOR CARRYING ON AS IF GIVING BIRTH IS THE ONLY WORTHWHILE THING WOMEN CAN CONTRIBUTE TO SOCIETY.
Let me reproduce Mrs Obaseki’s dignified response, said in a recent online interaction with over 200 Edo women in the Diaspora:
Mrs Obaseki was joined in the Zoom meeting by Madame Ifeyinwa, the wife of Asue Ighodalo, the PDP’s candidate in the off-cycle gubernatorial election that will take place in Edo State tomorrow.
She said: “Well, it is important that we as human beings seek to have deeper perspectives and purpose in life. As a human being, I believe what is most important is that we find our purpose.
“Everyone is created by God to actualize their purpose in life and once we have that mindset and seek that in life, and we are happy with our lives and know that we are moving on in actualizing God’s purpose for our lives, in bringing glory to God in the way we live our lives, then it wouldn’t matter if certain remarks are flung at you.”
“I will like to say to every woman and sister, if you feel hurt by whatever you heard; for me, I haven’t paid much attention to it. My word of comfort to you will be, in addition to seeking God’s purpose and finding fulfillment therein, I will say to those of you sisters who like myself had conceived and had miscarriages; who like myself had painful evacuations of our babies who have died in our wombs; who have conceived and birth babies who died at birth or at different stages in life, and as we speak today do not have children to show for the trauma and the pains that we experienced in life; my word of comfort to you as I say to myself, is you are not barren.
“Don’t be hurt if anyone calls you that or if anyone calls your fellow woman that; you are not barren. I dare to call you fruitful. You and I are potential, prospective proud mothers of lively children.
“The children will come in God’s time. So, hang in there. Hold your head up high. You are not barren. Enjoy the life that God has given you in the meantime. Thank God for what you have. Thank God for a loving spouse, like I have. I say I have the best husband in the world.
“Thank God for the love of family and friends and those support systems that God has given you.” She added that her contributions to society have gone beyond the biological aspect of motherhood and clearly stating that: “Being fruitful is not limited to childbearing. It is about impacting lives and creating positive change in society. There is no point in feeling bad. Women can fulfil God’s purpose in many ways beyond motherhood.”
The high price of Japa
I’ve been feeling so depressed in recent weeks, partly because of the state of the nation. And I am far from alone in my slough of despair. Millions of Nigerians share my pain. Here is an angry commentary from an unknown author I encountered via WhatsApp.
Many Nigerian families will never be together again. Not because they don’t want to be- but because they simply can never be together again.
First born is in Canada.
Second born is in Dubai.
Third born is in Australia.
Fourth born is in New York.
Last born is in UK.
Parents are in Nigeria making trips once in a while to see them in the different countries.
They are all getting married and having children who will never really meet or know each other. Their best shot is group video calls which will almost never happen because there’s no convenient regular time that works for everybody due to different global time zones.
They’ve all had to travel because Nigeria failed them and they needed to leave to another country where they can have a shot at life and their children won’t suffer what they went through.
This is the high price of japa that you can never put a financial value on that very few people talk about. The destruction of families and the tearing of siblings apart.
This is the silent evil that the incompetent useless godforsaken cursed nigerian govt and its lunatic leaders has done to many nigerian families over the last 10years.
One day we will realise the extent of the damage and the destruction that our unfortunate leaders/ politicians have done to millions of nigerian families.
Japa is a journey that is worth it, without a doubt. And I will always recommend it. Because it is far better for you to make that journey for your own good and for the sake of your children, rather than stay in a country where its cursed demonic leaders have vowed to destroy the lives of everyone especially young people’s lives.
So, the whole truth is simply letting you know that japa is a journey that is always worth it without a doubt, but it is also a journey that comes with a lot of pain and a high price.
I have a friend who is a twin.
They are both Nigerian and Igbo.
But today He is American and his twin brother is Canadian.
Because few years ago, to escape the Nigerian madness, one emigrated to USA and the other one to Canada.
This is the high cost of bad governance.
How sad.
That’s twins of Nigerian birth. With different nationalities today.
I know of another man whose children are in USA, Canada and UK. He just got a USA and Canada visa to go visit them. He was awaiting his UK visa- so he could make a trip to all these countries and see the kids.
Last week he died of a heart attack in Lagos. The last time he saw his kids was 7years ago.
How sad.
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